What outfit to wear to a high school reunion in midlife depends on the location of the meeting. Read to get ideas for looks with pieces you have in your own closet for the location including tips on grooming, and being confident about yourself.
- Should You Dress like Back Then?
- How to Use Your Clothes to Convey a Message about You
- Take the Location into Account when Choosing Your Outfit
- Grooming Does a Lot for Your Look
- How to Impress at Your High School Reunion?
- How to Be Confident about Yourself
- What Are the Biggest Mistakes when Dressing for a High School Reunion?
- What Not to Talk about at a High School Reunion?
- Final Remark On Dressing for a Class Reunion
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Should You Dress Like Back Then?
By all means No.
Why? First, fashion trends have changed, and most likely your personal style changed with the lifestyle you lead now. For instance, my style had progressed from wearing old clothes from attics and cellars or bought on flea markets in the 1970s, to the 1980s’ power dressing – called Banker Style in West Germany.
Second, what to wear for 40th class reunion, or any big year class meeting that you think you shouldn’t skip? Dress according to who you are today! High school is how many years ago? 30, 35, 40? Eons, light years? Most likely they have self-adhesive name tags.
Third, you most likely only remember the names of whom you liked/disliked back then. For the first you cared, and you preferred to see the backs of the latter anyway. The rest was below your radar screen, i.e. they were there, but invisible.
Last, but not least, when your former class has met every year, or you and most classmates stayed in the same neighborhood, you grew “old” with each other. As a result, they have most likely no problems to recognize you. If you or they moved away, they may even not remember what you wore back then.
How to Use Your Clothes to Convey a Message about You …
… without having to talk. Clothing conveys a message. It’s up to you whether you want to dress according to your leisure/weekend style or dress to impress. Keep in mind what you would like to talk about. In the latter case, dress like you would dress for a work meeting. Such an outfit may lead to conversations about your job/career. The former could lead to chatting about your hobbies. It’s up to you. You choose.
When you were a stay-at-home mom and are now an empty nester, but don’t work, take the opportunity to dress up. Add a unique accessory that can function as an ice breaker. Cute shoes are always a good idea too. And don’t feel inferior to the women who work(ed). In today’s times, having been able to stay-at-home is a luxury most families can’t even afford (only for a while)! So be proud and feel blessed of having been able to raise your kids.
When you are (lucky to be) retired, dress up too. Make sure to add an accessory that is related to what you do now. It helps to get into a conversation. Necklaces, earrings, brooches, scarves and even belts are great options to do so. More on accessorizing with belts and on how to up your style with scarves.
Take the Location into Account when Choosing Your Outfit
The location may give you hints what to wear. If it is a dinner at a restaurant, some kind of loosely-defined cocktail attire is a good choice at an upscale place. If the restaurant is casual/rustic, take their usual dress code up a notch with a bit more glam. It’s a celebration after all! Well, call it a show! Yes, it’s all about high school.
Choose the shoes dependent on whether the party will be in the restaurant’s beer garden or in a reserved room. If it is outside go for ballerina flats or wedges. Otherwise, sandals or pumps are fine.
If the meeting is in the gym of your former high school, it will be a casual setting. You will be probably asked to bring clean non-marking shoes or sneakers. Most likely, they prohibit street shoes. A pretty dress with a denim jacket with sneakers makes a great casual posh balance. When you want to wear heels, buy a pair of fancy dance shoes.
Stylist tip: When in doubt, wear a business casual outfit.
Grooming Does a Lot for Your Look
Make an appointment for a haircut the week before. This way your hair doesn’t look like freshly cut. If you dye your hair, do it in the week before.
Get an appointment for a blowout, and a manicure on the day of the reunion. Don’t have your eyebrows waxed that day. Do it at least a day before. The beauty person might use too hot wax, and burn you. On the same day, there is no chance to cover a burn with concealer.
Needless to say, cover-up everything, e.g., age-spots with concealer, and make-up as needed. Use a primer prior to applying makeup so your teint looks more even. Go for a barely there makeup to look young and sophisticated. More tips on makeup over 40.
… and yes, avoid all the 85 fashion mistakes that make you look old.
How to Be Confident about Yourself
The most important thing is to feel confident and comfortable. Recall there may be all those awkward situations like meeting your former bully, former high school sweetheart, your ex-boyfriend, or even ex-husband when you married your high school sweetheart. Also it takes nerves when there is this one competitive person who always had to be the best, the most beautiful, sexiest, popular, the most who knows what. Most likely that classmate still has this attitude. That person will have maxed out their credit card to dress in all upscale designer telling you that they became rich in the stock market, married a millionaire, won the lottery, … You get the idea.
Be confident, just find an excuse to go away. Restroom, refill, making a call, whatever excuse comes up your mind. Most likely that person has a terrible evening anyhow. Wearing these clothes with the price tags carefully taped on the inside so the pieces can be exchanged at Neiman Marcus or 5th Avenue the next day to “reset” the credit card.
How to Impress at Your High School Reunion?
Dress to represent the person that you are now, i.e. the person you have become. This way you come across confident about yourself. Be yourself. Everybody else is already taken. #selfconfidence #lifestyle Click To Tweet You achieved a lot, and have gone a long way from back then.
Get rid of your high school insecurities. Be a great listener. Talking the entire time about you can come across as trying to seem to be more than you are and/or insecure/unhappy about your achievements.
What Are the Biggest Mistakes When Dressing for a High School Reunion?
The worst mistakes when picking your class reunion outfit are:
- Giving yourself a makeover. That’s like being in disguise.
- Overdressing. You might come across as insecure.
- Dressing like back in high scchool. It would make you look like a big failure.
- Going on a diet because of the event. Instead wear heels and an outfit in dark neutrals with vertical lines (seams, stripes) to give the illusion of being slimmer than you are. Practice walking in heels, if needed.
What Not to Talk about at a High School Reunion?
The one thing you never should start talking about is your kids or grand kids. You have a life of your own, and yes, that not boring at all. Period.
Final Remark On Dressing for a Class Reunion
Enjoy the reunion and don’t envy anyone. They all tried their best to look like beautiful white swans.
Photos of me: G. Kramm
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