What to wear to a high school reunion

#fashionover50 midlife woman in skirt and sweater office outfit with floral print scarf and pumps

The outfit challenge of High School Reunions

When your former class has had a reunion every year, you kind of grew “old” with each other. Thus, any style changes were followed and your classmates have most likely no problems to recognize you. However, once people reached their 30s and had a little family, even when a person attended every annual meeting the person may have a hard time recognizing classmates. Some skip a meeting. Before they realize they skip it this year, they skipped it the year before, the year before the year before, and so on and it’s fast 10 years.

In the already busy world of the 70s and 80s, even with the best motivation on graduation day, things slipped and meetings related to the past, were the first things to fall thru the cracks. Even worse, when it’s a middle school reunion. My graduation class only had their 10 years reunion. It seemed that only those who lived in the same neighborhood or who remained in contact with each other, knew each other. A few who looked like an older version of their younger version were recognized by all who came. Nobody not even the two gals who still lived in my parents’ neighborhood, recognized me. Why? My style had charged from wearing old clothes from found in attics and cellars or bought on flea markets to the 80s’ power dressing – called Banker Style in West Germany at that time. I also had gotten rid of my glasses.

#fashionover50 midlife woman in silk silk and knit top with pumps and scarf
Liz Claiborne red pumps, Ann Taylor silk knit short sleeve sweater, Anne Klein silk floral print scarf, Hermes collier de chien bangle, studs head band (all own), wooden sports watch c/o Jord, and silk skirt c/o Lily silk

Should you dress like back then?

By all means no! No, no, no! Dress according to who you are today. High school is how many years ago? 30, 35, 40? Eons, light years? Most likely they have self adhesive name tags. Furthermore, you most likely only remember the names of whom you liked and whom you disliked back then. For the first you cared, for the latter you didn’t. You probably preferred to see them backs anyway. The rest was just below your radar screen, i.e. they were there, but invisible. Thus, dress who you are now, dress to represent the person (you) that you became. Be yourself. you achieved a lot and have gone a long way from back then.

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The most important thing is to feel confident and comfortable. Recall there may be all those awkward situations like meeting your former bully, former high school sweetheart, your ex-boyfriend, or even ex-husband when you married your high school sweetheart. Also it takes nerves when there is this one competitive person who always had to be the best, the most beautiful, the most sexiest, the most popular, the most who knows what. Most likely that classmate still has this attitude. That person will have maxed out their credit card to be dressed in all upscale designer telling you that they became rich in the stock market, married a millionaire, won the lottery, you get the idea. Be confident, just find an excuse to go away. Restroom, refill, making a call, whatever excuse comes up your mind. Most likely that person has a terrible evening anyhow. Wearing these clothes with the price tags carefully taped on the inside to stay inside so the pieces can be exchanged at Neiman Marcus or 5th Avenue the next day to “reset” the credit card.

#advancedstyle midlife woman having fun in her work attire of skirt, sweater, scarf and pumps in spring
Side view of spring work outfit Ann Taylor silk knit top, Anne Klein floral print scarf, Liz Claiborne pointy toe pumps, Hermes collier de chien bangle, statement necklace (all own) and silk below the knee skirt c/o Lilysilk

Use your clothes to convey a message about you …

… without having to talk. It’s up to you whether you want to dress according to your leisure/weekend style or dress to impress. Keep in mind what you would like to talk about. In the latter case, dress like you would dress for a work meeting. This outfit may lead to conversations about your job and career. The former could lead to chatting about your hobbies. It’s up to you. You choose.

When you were a stay-at-home mom and are now an empty nester, but don’t work, dress up. You probably don’t have many opportunities to dress up, thus, you shouldn’t miss this opportunity to dress nicely. Add a unique accessory that can function as an ice breaker. Cute shoes are always a good idea too. And don’t feel inferior to the women who work(ed). In today’s times, having been able to be a stay-at-home (even only for a while) is a luxury most families can’t even afford.

When you are (lucky to be) retired, dress up too. Make sure to add an accessory that is related to what you do now in your free time. It helps to get into a conversation.

#fashionover50 midlife woman looking posh in a knitted silk top and silk skirt office outfit
Ann Taylor silk knit top, Anne Klein floral print oblong scarf, Liz Claiborne pumps, Hermes collier de chien bangle, statement necklace (all own), wooden sport watch c/o Jord, and teal silk midi skirt c/o Lilysilk

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Take the location into account when choosing your outfit

The location may give you hints what to wear. If it is a dinner at a restaurant, some kind of loosely-defined cocktail attire is a good choice when it’s an upscale place. If the restaurant is more casual, take their usual dress code up a notch in the direction of a bit more glam. It’s a celebration after all! Well, call it a show! Yes, it’s all about high school.

Choose the shoes dependent on whether the party will be in the restaurant’s beer garden or in a room of the place. If it is outside go for wedges, otherwise, sandals or pumps are fine.

If the meeting is in the gym of your former high school, it’s a more casual setting. You will be probably asked to bring clean non-marking shoes or sneakers and not allowed to wear street shoes. A pretty dress with a denim jacket with sneakers is a good option to go for a casual posh balance. When you want to wear heels, buy a pair of fancy dance shoes.

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Grooming does a lot for your look

Make an appointment for a hair cut the week before. This way your hair doesn’t look like freshly cut. If you dye your hair, do it in the week before. If needed get an appointment for a blowout and a manicure on the day of the reunion.

Don’t have your eyebrows waxed that day. Do it at least a day before. The beauty person might use to hot wax and burn you. If it’s on the day, you will have no chance to cover it up with concealer.

Well, it’s needless to say, cover-up everything, e.g. age-spots with concealer and make-up as needed. Use a primer prior to applying make-up so your teint looks more even. Go for a barely there make-up look to look young and sophisticated. You can find tips on make-up over 40 at the link.

… and yes, avoid tall the 85 fashion mistakes that make you look old. Enjoy the reunion and don’t envy anyone. They all tried their best to look like beautiful white swans.

Today’s outfit

Well, and what not to wear when meeting your former classmates is today’s outfit. I wore this burnt red with teal outfit as one of the first spring outfits to the office. The scarf has these colors in its print plus some variation thereof and this years It color violet.

Top of the World Style linkup

Welcome to the 154th Top of the World Style linkup party.

Top of the World Style awards

The featured bloggers who won awards by linking up at last week’s Top of the World Style party are as follows.

Top of the World OOTD Readers’ Fav

You clicked Penny Kocher’s thumbnail the most and made her Top of the World OOTD Readers’ Fav. She is the voice at the thrifting blog entitled Frugal Fashion Shopper. Yes, since we all are not Heiresses, we are all on a fashion budget. And so often one woman’s wrong purchase is another woman’s treasure. Do you thrift or buy in consignment store or on eBay? If not, you should read how to score high on eBay or 7 tips to score high in a consignment store to get started.

#stylelinkup Top of the World OOTD Readers' Fav Penny Kocher
Penny Kocher, the thrifting fashion blogger at Frugal Fashion Shopper became Top of the World OOTD Readers’ Fav. Photo from her post

Top of the World OOTD My Fav

Emma Peach became Top of the World OOTD My Fav. She is the fashion blogger at Style Splash. She linked her outfit that she wore in Dubai. I am not sure whether she wore the hiab politically correct, but she looks stunning in her outfit.

#fashionlinkup Top of the World OOTD my Fav Emma Peach of Style Splash
Emma Peach, the blogger at Style Splash, became Top of the World OOTD my Fav. Photo from her post

Top of the World Style Winner

Lorena, the eight to five blogger at My Everyday Wear became the Top of the World Style Winner. She presented a comfortable, but posh back and white work outfit with a gorgeous statement necklace. A perfect pop of color! A great classic look that works at any age! You can find other black-and-white outfit suggestions at the link.

#fashionlinkup top of the world style winner Lorena of My Everyday Wear
Lorena, the eight-to-five blogger at My Everyday Wear, became Top of the World Style Winner. Photo from her post

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