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Landsend V-neck sweater, Kieselstein Cord belt and buckle, Pendleton wool plaid midi skirt, L.K. Bennett suede leather boots, Jord bamboo watch, statement necklace (all own) and halftee c/o Halftee

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Not everything is black and white

When a year ended and a new year begins, we tend to go down memory lane. We review the great moments, our achievements, but also remember the bad things. The danger is to get get too far in the negative and overlook the postives we experienced.

Go down memory lane to do better next time, but not too far to stop trying. #motivationalquote #success Click To Tweet

Just looking at the past in black and white is like assuming success is a straight line. On the contrary, in all kind of life situations, success is a road of failure after failure. Those who learn from the mishaps finally achieve their goals. They then can set a new goal. And yes, it’s that treatmill of trial and error again until the next goal is achieved.

Nicole Mölders in plaid skirt sweater office winter look
Landsend sweater, Kieselstein Cord belt and buckle, Pendleton plaid skirt, L.K. Bennett boots, Jord wooden watch, statement necklace (all own) and layering top c/o Halftee
The road of succes is paved with overcome failures. Click To Tweet

Always remember: A black and white outfit is great, but an outfit with the shades or gray is so much more pleasant, not only for the eye. Thus, when letting the past year pass in front of your eyes remember

Not everything is just black or white, embrace the shades of gray. #ThursdayThoughts Click To Tweet
outfit photo in just black and white
outfit photo in shades of gray plus black and white

Don’t get trapped in the past. The bad things were back then. They are not happening now. They closed a door, but opened the way for new pathes. Just choose wisely. Keep going.

#fashionover50 mature woman in a winter red-white-blue office outfit
Landsend top, Kieselstein Cord belt and buckle, Pendleton midi skirt, L.K. Bennett suede tall footwear, Jord men’s watch, garnet fashion necklace (all own) and cropped tee c/o Halftee

Set realistic goals

Don’t set yourself up for failure. For instance, challenging yourself to loose 20 lb, get into bikini shape, cook your own healthy meals every day, save enough money for a cruise thru the Northwest Passage in August and earning more income by taking on a second job is not only a recipe for failure, but also for frustration and you may even achieve the opposite. Gain weight, eat junk food, loose money on medical bills. There goes your health, the cruise, and career.

Every goal needs time to achieve

Thus, celebrate the baby steps. Florence Griffith-Joyner did not sprint 100 m in 10.49 seconds when she made her first step as a toddler. Personal style doesn’t come over night. It’s not enough to just bookmark xillions of “How to look stylish in??” posts. It’s all about putting the theory into action. Going back to the example of style, it’s about not only knowing what the style secrets are, but also applying them when dressing in a very personal way.

Take personal style as an example

In style, the making it personal, i.e. making it all you, is the hard part. As you know you can be your biggest saboteur by buying/wearing clothes that don’t fit, are the wrong color, don’t work for your lifestyle, bodyshape, etc. Buying, keeping, wearing the wrong clothes, but following all the “how-tos” doesn’t make a woman a Style Icon like Kate Moss, Victoria Beckham, Michelle Obama, Melania Trump, Duchesse Kate, or Lyn Slater.

Set short-term, medium term and long-term goals

Yes, set New Year’s resolutions. Get started to become the new you. But set priorities in your goals that make you happy along the way to achieving the big (long-term) goals. Be realistic.

#styleover50 woman in midi skirt with pullover in front of a door
Backview of winter work look with Landsend pullover, Kieselstein Cord belt, Pendleton wool skirt, L.K. Bennett footwear (all own)

One dress size is about loosing 5-9 lb! Going one dress size down by summer, adding one healthy meal a week and opting for a cruise to Glacier Bay will get you more readily to a healthier you, eventhough these goals are just a shade of gray instead of pure white. But it’s better than black. Isn’t it?

What are your style, health and beauty goals for the New Year? What are you struggling with on the way to looking your best?

Winter work outfit inspiration

Here I am wearing a red-white and blue office look. Typically, one associates these colors with summer due to our National Colors. However, since the plaid is in these colors, it’s sort of instant style to add a blue halftee and a red V-neck sweater (or the other way around). To avoid that the midi skirt – they are tricky on petites like me – drowns me, I opted for my blue tall boots. For more outfit inspirations on how to wear tall boots see the post at the link.

When you like the free outfit tips of this post, and want styling tips for all kind of dressing situation in midlife, buy my book How to Dress for Success in Midlife.

Like this outfit inspirations? Then feel free to pin it to your own Pinterest board.

First Top of the World Style fashion party of the year

Welcome! This 187th Top of the World Style linkup is the first of the new year. When you are new, welcome. We are glad you are here. You can register to receive an email invitation each week for the party.

By linking up, you agree that I can use a photo from your linked post in case you become the Top of the World Style Winner, Top of the World OOTD Readers’ Fav or Top of the World OOTD My Fav. Thanks for the permission. 🙂

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Please link only outfit posts and visit the party’s guests’ posts and say Hi.

The awardees are …

World OOTD Readers' Fav Tatiana Moskatova
Tatiana Moskatova the blogger at My Fab Forties became Top of the World OOTD Readers’ Fav. Photo from her post

Top of the World OOTD My Fav Tiina of Elegance Revisited
Tiina the blogger at Elegance Revisited became Top of the World OOTD My Fav. Photo from her post.
Top of the World Style Winner Maggie Donapel
Maggie Donapel, the blogger at Thriftshop Fashionista was the Top of the World Style Winner. Photo from her post.

Congrats! Download your award logo from the Linkup Directory to post it in your sidebar or on your award page.

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All fashionisters and fashionistas, fashion and style lovers are welcome!

Let me give you some free promo. Tweet your linked post using the hashtag #TopoftheWorldStyleLinkup @HighLatitudeSty and I will retweet your link.

Fashion and style friends,
This is the first time I use InLinkz’ new version that they want us to transfer to soon. To be honest, I am not very keen of it. One has to create an account with them to link up to a blogger’s party. Linking up used to be easier back in the early days. It’s my understanding that this new way is a consequence of the GPDR. What do you think?

Click the blue frog button to get to the party space.

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Photos of me: G. Kramm

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This Post Has 12 Comments

  1. ratnamurti

    I enjoyed this. I learnt as I became older, that shades of grey (not the 50 shades thing!!) make life kinder and easier

  2. Nicole Mölders

    I think I did wrong, but I’m not 100% sure.

  3. Nicole Mölders

    Hast du mal versucht einen Midirock mit einer hohen Taille zu finden mit Stiefeln in derselben Farbe? Bei mir wirkt es Wunder.

  4. Nadine Fei

    Frohes Neues Jahr, liebe Nicole!

    Das ist wieder ein wunderschönes Outfit von Dir und Du siehst darin toll aus! Ich mag solche langen Faltenröcke sehr gerne, aber sie stehen mir (im Gegensatz zu Dir!) leider nicht. Vielleicht sollte ich es auch einmal mit hohen Stiefeln probieren, so wie Du sie trägst. Ich habe immer den Eindruck, dass ich in so einem Midi-Rock “gestaucht” aussehe. Bei Dir ist das überhaupt nicht der Fall und ich wäre nie auf die Idee gekommen, dass Du “petite” bist.
    Sehr schön ist auch Deine Selektion der Linkup Party Bloggerinnen. Meine Favoritin wäre Tatjana. Mir gefällt ihr Outfit mit dem kuschelige Offwhite-Pulli und dem Polka Dots Midirock besonders gut.

    Liebe Grüße aus Wien,

  5. Hi Nicole! I am glad you sent out the email, I just came back to link up. 🙂 I need to switch over to that new InLinkz and it makes me a little nervous! I LOVE this outfit on you, just the perfect holiday outfit with the red top and it picks up some of the red in the plaid skirt. Looking gorgeous! Happy New Year!


  6. Nicole Mölders

    Happy New Year to you too. You are welcome! I have to thank you for being a regular guest at my party. Thank you for the feedback on adding a comment section.

  7. Tiina Lehtoranta

    Happy New Year, Nicole! I think it’s great you have a comment section now, too.
    And thanks for the feature!

  8. Nicole Mölders

    Happy New Year to you and yours too!

  9. shelbeeontheedge1

    Nicole, this is such a great post with wonderful tips on setting achievable goals. I struggled all of 2018 because I set myself a goal that overwhelmed me. For 2019, I broke it down into smaller much more achievable goals and will be celebrating each baby step that I accomplish. That definitely fuels my motivation much better! Wishing you a very Happy New Year!


  10. thestylesplash

    I love the plaid skirt with the long boots! Happy New Year!

    Emma xxx

  11. Jodie

    Great advice, Nicole. For some reason when I tried to join the party…this is the message I got: A requested resource could not be found. Please try again

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