How to dress for a civil wedding

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Wedding season

In Germany, the dream wedding month is May. Many young couples want to get married in May because it is the first real spring month with the first real warm days in Germany. The trees are green and the flowers, bushes and trees are in full bloom. Somehow they associate May with sunshine and hope. Actually, May is the rainiest month in Germany. When I told my sister, she switched her wedding to October.

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Wearing a hat at our wedding

In the US, June is the wedding season. Anyhow, as weddings need long planning, especially here in the US, I thought it is the right time for some Dress for Success posts on the various dress codes for a wedding.

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Corduroy velvet shirt dress (self sewn) with L.K. Bennett pumps and D&GM sunglasses

Civil wedding guest outfit

Let’s start with just a civil wedding with just the legal wedding procedure. They differ strongly by states and countries, but when borough, county, city or religious officers are involved you cannot be wrong with pants or skirt suits, a formal dress, anything along the line of business casual as long as you leave your jeans at home. What’s called Sunday’s Best like a velvet dress would work too in Germany. A cocktail dress with cropped jacket to cover the shoulders will work as long as you are sure not to out-dress the bride.

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Corduroy velvet shirt dress with leather coat, L.K. Bennett pumps and Jaeger bag (all own)
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Add a hat

In some regions, women wear a hat. This accessory makes the outfit very sophisticated. The hardest part is to find a hat that goes with the vibe of the outfit. How lucky are our sis in Great Britain where there are still hat makers and stores with huge selections!

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Front view of the 40s style shirt dress with L.K. Bennett open toe pumps (all own)

Wedding guest outfit inspirations

The photos below give some outfit inspirations for a formal civil wedding.

fashion over 50 wedding guest outfit Abstract floral print Eli Tahari sleeveless summer sheath dress with MOSHINO belt, Hermes collier de chien bangle, small lady-like bag, pink jacket and slingbacks (all own)

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Baby pink sheath jersey dress c/o Lookbook with own studded flats and necklace for a civil summer wedding guest

style over 40 outfit for guest at a civil wedding Linen blazer with black straight skirt, polka dot top, silk scarf, pearls, structured bag and L.K. Bennett pumps (all own)

style over 50 What to wear to a civil wedding Victoria Victoria Beckham cat pleated drop-waist dress with pumps, Paloma Picasso sunglasses, Hermes collier de chien bangle, Bulova watch, bracelet and scarf (all own)

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Liz Claiborne pumps, statement bag, a coin necklace designed by my late Dad, Hermes collier de chien bangle (all own), and color blocked jersey dress c/o Ronen Chen

look for a civil wedding Long sleeve turtleneck layering top c/o adea with own hounds tooth blazer, pearls and Sienna Studio pencil leather skirt and pumps for a sleek, sophisticated and effortless look

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Retro shirt dress with L.K. Bennett pumps (all own)

Be aware – a wedding is a sort of family reunion

Since weddings are also some sort of family reunion you may want to also take in to consideration what to wear at a family reunion to not become the amusement of the freshly weds future kids at a family reunion down the road.


Do you have a wedding coming up? What type of wedding is it? Have you already picked the dress? What are the wedding style questions you are struggling with? Let me know so I can help you.

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