What to wear for Valentine’s Day
GNW leopard print cardigan layered under cashmere sweater over Ann Taylor leather pencil skirt with Harley Davidson booties (all own)
  1. Valentine’s Day outfit ideas for women in midlife
    • How long do you know each other?
    • How will you get there?
  2. Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean you have to wear red
  3. Beautiful Valentine’s day outfit inspirations

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Valentine’s Day outfit ideas for women in midlife <3

I hope you have already an invitation or will get one soon. The big question on such a big day is What to Wear. As so often in life, there is not one hard answer. Here some thoughts on what to consider when dressing for the big night out.

Where will we go?

Going to the movies, for instance, is a casual date. Your goal should be to put together an outfit that highlights your best feature or shows your shape in an understated way. For instance, skinny jeans, a wrapped top, motorcycle boots, and a slouchy cardigan, or a cute belted floral print dress that just shows your collar bone and ends above the knees with a cardigan.

Going to a restaurant means you can dress up. Keep the dress code of the restaurant in mind when picking the outfit. You can never go wrong with a LBD with the right accessories. On Valentine’s Day one can say the same for the little red dress (LRD).

Are you going to a Valentine’s Ball or dance party? Then check the dress code. If it is formal, go for a  gown not shorter than knee-length. If it says semi-formal, a long gown could be over-kill. Go for a cocktail dress. If it is a social dance, a fancy fit-and-flare dress with some red will do the trick. If the dress code is informal or casual, metallic pants or a sequin skirt with a cute top, (white) jeans with an embellished or sequin top are good bets.

But wait! Before you pick your dress, consider the following.

post logo what to wear valentine's day showing a woman in red slip looking worried

How long do you know each other?

If you just started dating or it is your first date, go for more coverage. A knee-long long-sleeve fitted crew neck LBD or LRD with tights is perfect. It showcasts your body without looking over the top sexy. You don’t want him to stare at whatever. You want him to look into your eyes and talk with you so you get to know each other better.

If you know each other for quite a while, you can show more skin. But one area at a time is so much more sexy and attractive than skin everywhere. Thus, either a mini skirt or cleavage or shoulders, not all at once. Recall you are celebrating your relationship.

How will you get there?

If you have private transportation, you can go for hot sandals or pumps even in cold climate regions. However, when you have to walk and/or wait for public transportation, you should choose a pair of shoes that provides good insulation from the ground, but allows to safely walk even on snow and/or ice.

Also wear a warm coat. When your indoor outfit is made of thin, delicate fabric have a light cashmere cardigan that you add for extra insulation (or as a cover-up in case it is chilly in the restaurant).

A Burberry coat is a great investment for women over 40

fashion over 40 Burberry coat with scarf, gloves and beret
Outfit details: Burberry loden motorcycle coat worn over the above outfit with harley Davidson booties, structured bag, blue leather gloves (similar here), blue paisley scarf and blue beret (all own)

If your boots or booties are needed because of the outside conditions, bring the strappy sexy sandals or pumps in a large bag or tote like shown in the outfit photo. It is so much better than freezing your toes off. Remember

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Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean you have to wear red

You don’t like red and you wore the LBD last year? Switch things up by wearing pink instead of red as I did in the post’s inspiration photo. The outfit shown in this post would work well with a red instead of the pink sweater for a Valentine’s day dinner with my husband in an Alaska Roadhouse heated by a woodstove on a -20F (-29.9C) day. Note that at such outside temperatures, it doesn’t get warm enough for cleavage. Any cleavage would look like you are desparate.

jewelry over 40 brooches

fashion blogger in black sheath dress over pink sweater
Outfit details: GAP sheath dress accessorized with two DIY brooches and a Judy Gum brooch over GNW Luxe cashmere wool sweater with GNW tight, and Harley Davidson booties (all own)

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Beautiful Valentine’s day outfit inspirations

Shop your closet for items similar to these depending on your plans.

mature woman in long sweater styled for a Valentine's Day dinner at a roadhouse Dinner at a roadhouse: Sweater dress c/o AMICLUBWEAR with own red Anne Klein sweater worn over the shoulders for a red pop of color, GNW red tight, Moschino belt, Constance bag, and red Manolo Blahnik ankle bootiesover 50 years old woman wearing shiny pants for going to a sport bar Dinner at a sport bar: Shiny leather pants, Kieselstein Cord belt, statement snake tail buckle, GNW Luxe sweater, Puma sneakers (all own), and India Hicks scarf c/o India Hicks ambassador Tammy Gray

40+ woman in a red tulle skirt Going out dancing at a bar: Neo Tango shoes, Cuddle Doo top, BCGC belt, and 7 layers tulle skirt (all own)

style over 40 Woman in a Little Red Dress for Valentine's Day Going to the movies in warm climate: eShakti Little Red Dress with floral silk scarf, collier de chien belt, and Calvin Klein pumps (all own)

fashion blogger in suede red skirt with lace under sweater Dinner at a roadhouse: Rose dust lace 3/4 sleeves halftee c/o Halftee with own G-III suede skirt, LandsEnd sweater, GNW tight, Manelo Blanik booties and opera length rose pearl necklace

over 50 years old fashion blogger in V-day winter outfit Casual restaurant: Landsend cashmere sweater, silk scarf, Oliveo pleated leather skirt, Hermes collier de chien bangle, DIY bangle, gemstone necklace, pearl studs, upcycled boots, layering top (all own) and tights c/o Hipstik® Legwear

style blogger in sequin velvet semi-formal dress Semi-formal dance event: Navy sequin black velvet sweater dress c/o AMICLUBWEAR, and own Very Fine Dance Shoes Latin dance sandals

over 40 years old woman in little red dress Going to the movies and a drink: eShakti motorcycle dress, GNW tight, Micheal Kors wedge sneakers, Collier de Chien belt (all own) and layering top c/o Adea#fashionover50 woman in red suede pants and leopard print top Dinner at a restaurant: New Magram suede leather pants, MOSCHINO belt, August Silk leopard print cardigan worn as top, Hermes collier de chien bangle and Manolo Blanik booties (all own)

mature fashion blogger in black velvet ball gown Black Tie event: Neck-holder velvet gown with coin belt and leather opera gloves

over 50 years old women in red and black burned velvet tea-length gown Semi-formal Valentine’s dance: Tea-length evening-gown and dance shoes

style blogger over 40 in a blue beaded evening gown for a sweetheart ball Black tie Valentine’s Ball: Evening gown in various royal blue shades with beaded waves pattern

mature woman in lace evening gown Military ball: Lace evening gown with silver Ralph Lauren pumps (all own)

blogger Nicole sitting in front of a mirror in a maxidress Vacation resort: Unbranded maxi dress (own) necklace c/o Happiness Boutique

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What are your plans for Valentine’s Day?  What will you wear? What are your dressing challenges? Let me know, so I can help you.

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P.S.: You may be interested in reading what mistakes to avoid when dressing for Valentine’s Day.

P.P.S.: Are you still looking for Valentine’s Day gifts? Check out my gift guide for inspirations.

Photos: G. Kramm

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