How to look your best at a dinner party

Don’t sweat what to wear at a dinner party

Dinning invitations – whether at a friend’s or colleague’s house or in a restaurant – are those in between dress-up and casual social events that are hard to dress for. While the dress code for a cocktail party or how to dress for a BBQ are straight forward dress-up and casual, respectively, the dinner-party dress code seems to be neither fish nor meat to many of us.

Easy solutions what to wear to a dinner party

This post shares some ideas to strike the balance to feel comfy, appropriately dressed for the event, respectful, look toyour best, and to have a great time.

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Attention: Dress-code theme

First make sure that the hostess/host has not planned a theme. If so, you are out of the salad and just have to find something that matches the theme. Take a look at what you have in your closet that you could wear and accessorize to fit in. I wrote a post about how to shop your closet for costumes awhile ago.

If there is no theme, your goal should be to go for something fashionable, but not too trendy.

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Here are some nice outfit inspirations for dinner invitations year round. When you get an invitation in summer, make sure whether it’s a gril party. In that case, it’s better to dress for a BBQ than a sit-down dinner.

over 50 years woman in a summer dinner party outfit Panel 1. Notations floral cardigan worn as a top with Kieselstein Cord belt over white London Jean boyfriend jeans with Michael Kors strappy sandals, Hermes enamel bangles, and Kate Moss Longchamp bag (all own)
#maturefashion over 50 years woman in a cat dress styled for a dinner invitation Panel 2. Victoria Victoria Beckham silk cat-print dress with GNW cardigan, Hermes collier de chien bangle, Esprit bag, and studded pointy toe flats (all own)

#styleover40 midlife woman looking posh chic in a fit-and-flare dress for a winter dinning invitation Panel 3. Don’t Stare fit-and-flare dress with Moda International cardigan, GNW tights, Longchamp pilage bag, and Clark booties (all own)

fashion blogger in long leather skirt and cableknit sweater for a dinner party Panel 4. Oliveo long cherry red leather-skirt with cable-knit sweater, Hunter booties, wool socks, and statement necklace (all own) for a dinner party at a log house, restaurant of a winter resort, road house or dry cabin

street chic woman in Pantome inspired spring outfit Panel 9. eShakti fit-and-flare dress, Judith Leiber charmbelt, structured bag, floral tights (all own) and wooden sunglasses c/o Winkwood for an evening at a friends house

style blogger in lace dress for an evening invitation in summer Panel 5. Flowy lace dress with Star denim jacket, Harley Davidson booties, three string pearl necklace, and collier de chien belt (all own)

midlife woman in a print dress for an evening eating with friends Panel 6. Victoria Victoria Beckham silk print dress with Moda International cardigan, Hermes collier de chien bangle, and Gloria Vanderbilt pumps (all own)

over 50 years old woman in heritage inspired outfits waiting for food to be served Panel 7. Oliveo plaid shirt, Star denim jacket, GNW tight, Aigner sandals, Kate Moss for Longchamp bag, and deer leather Hosentürle skirt (all own)

women in dirndls of different heritage dressed up in traditional clothing for a dinning event Panel 8. Norwegian dirndl (left) and South Tyrolean dirndl with Jäger half blouse. Everyday heritage clothing may be a great ice breaker at (dinner) parties

over 50 fashion blogger Nicole in nice dinner outfit Panel 10. GNW tight, Jimmy Choo tall boots, Oliveo straight skirt, floral print silk scarf, gemstone necklace, Hermes collier de chien bangle, DIY bangle (all own) and A-line top c/o Covered Perfectly for an event at a fancy restuarant in winter

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Stylist’s dinner-party dress-code tips

Avoid anything too festive, especially, when the party is at a home, not a restaurant. You do not want to out-dress your hostess who runs back and forth between the kitchen and the dinning table! Unless she has a maid who prepares and serves the dinner, she will not wear something too fancy due to the risk of spilling and ruining it.

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When the dinner party is at a restaurant, keep the (unwritten) dress-code of that place in mind when putting your outfit together. In an Alaska roadhouse, for instance, anything chiffon would be out of place in winter.

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Have fun accessorizing

Dinner parties are your Card Blanche to accessorize with cocktail rings, chunky necklaces, layered necklaces, or oversize scarf, but please only one of these at a time. Dinner parties are a good opportunity to wear that shrunken blazer or embellished cardigan, or flowy dresses (e.g. panels 2, 5, 6). Unusual colors (panel 4), patterns (panels 2, 6) or cuts fit the bill (panel 5). In warm climate or summer, go for slouchy silky pants or tops, but make sure to have only one slouchy item. In colder climate regions or winter, silk and/or cashmere knit tops and heavier fabrics like jersey or gabardine (panel 3) or even white denim (panel 1) are in order.

In the European Alps or Scandinavia, wearing a cotton or wool dirndl is always appropriate for a dinner party (panel 8). Stay away from a linen dirndl as it may wrinkle when sitting at the table. If you are an immigrant, wearing an everyday item/outfit according to your heritage (panels 7, 8) like a lice jacket, lodden boots or Irish cableknit sweater will be appreciated by nearly everyone. Such an outfit is an ice breaker, especially, when there are people you never met before. Panels 9 and 10 show examples of winter outfits.

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Shoes can make or break your style

The type of shoes should be picked with the vibe of your outfit in mind. Thus, nearly everything not too casual and not too fancy works, for instance, wedges, strappy or beaded sandals with no to a little heel, cut-out ballet flats, even booties if they fit to the other items of the outfit style and color wise. Switch your bag. Leave your dress bag, work bag or backpack at home! Add a not too large clutch or other fancy bag that means the vibe of the outfit.

In winter, bring a pair of slides or mules so you won’t have to wear your tall boots or walk in your socks or tights inside the house. It’s just polite courtesy not to spill your host’s carpets with snow splash or wet footwear. Of course, bringing a pair of shoes requires a larger bag than a clutch. However, whether or not you have to bring shoes, your bag should clearly be outside the territory of black tie or work like the ones shown below.

Amber Convertible Crossbody minibag/clutch c/o Olivia + Joy from the Olivia + Joy Holiday Collection Amber convertible cross-body minibag/clutch c/o Olivia and Joy is a great bag for a dinning invitation to carry the essentials of makeup, keys, and cell phone
orange Bellorita large fish satchel This orange Bellorita fish satchel is large enough to hold your keys, phone and a pair of slides to wear inside the house

Dinner outfit suggestions and what else to think about

The panels above show some dinner outfit ideas. What about skinny white jeans with a silky, slouchy print top, floral cardigan or blouse (panel 1)? What about slouchy printed pants with a silk tank top and a cropped jeans jacket? Don’t wear this outfit when it is the first time you are invited there. You want to know that you will not have to take off your shoes! Pants cut for plateau shoes become a hazard without them!

over 50 years old style blogger in an American classic work outfit with suede leather jacket, sweater, white pants
Orvis suede jacket with GNW Luxe wool cashmere sweater, floral print scarf, Kieselstein Cord belt and buckle, I.N.C. white leather pants, and Coach Chelsea booties (all own) for an American West classic look

Are you the more girly girl? What about a midi or longer chiffon dress with a motorcycle vest or jacket, or a long lace dress with a denim jacket (panel 5)? A fit-and-flare dress with (panel 3) or without cardigan (panel 9) is a great option in winter.

Dinning invitation Dos

Well, two other things. What ever you wear, make sure it will not make you feel uncomfortable when you are “forced” to over-eat 😉 . Bring a little thoughtful gift for the hostess.

Enjoy the food, compliments, and evening in style!

Stylist’s tip: When the party takes place at a friend’s house in winter, make sure that your outerwear can take it that the host/ess throws every coat just onto their bed. Very Alaskan. In other words, you should be able to stick your gloves into the pockets of the coat, and the scarf and hat into its sleeves.

fashion blogger in winter outerwear with white leather pants
Burberry loden motorcycle coat with pinned on collar, white cap, brown LeatherCoatsEtc leather gloves, Michael Kors leopard print bag, white INC leather pants and Coach chelsea booties (all own)

Do you host dinning parties? What do you wear when you are the hostess? How does it differ from what you wear when you are the guest? What is your biggest style challenge when dressing when you are invited? Let me know, I am curious.

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