- Grace Liang, an American woman, blogger, transformational speaker and author
- Grace’s book Finding Grace
- A modern fairy tale
- Life after death
- The cruelity of things beyond control
- Self-discovery, coping and self-empowerment
- Who would enjoy reading Finding Grace
- Where to buy Finding Grace
- In a nutshell
Disclosure: Grace Liang gifted me her book entitled Finding Grace. This post is not endorsed by her. I wrote it entirely on my own and all opinions are mine and 100% honest.
Grace Liang, an American woman, blogger, transformational speaker and author
Many of you probably know Grace Liang, the Michigan blogger at Activate your Inner Power from her fashion blog Color and Grace. At least from my weekly Top of the World Style linkup parties, where she has been a regular guest and also became often the Readers’ Fav.
For those of my lovely readers who don’t know her, Grace Liang is not only a petite style blogger and fashion entusiast, but also a transformational speaker, woman entrepreneur, and obsessed with emotional fitness.
Grace now finished her first book, which will be launched on January 14. I asked her for a pre-lauch copy for review.
Grace’s book Finding Grace
A modern fairy tale
Grace Liang’s book is like a Mille Feuille (1000 sheets), you know this delicious French cake of several layers of puff pastry with butter cream inbetween. Her book is a book of love; a modern fairy tale of a Chinese girl growing up in rural China in a poor disfunctional family, leaving her village for a big megacity where she meets her Prince from another New World. She follows him into his world, marries him, gets a functional American family and lives a great life, they both enjoy. Traditional fairy tales would end here with the sentence “they lived happily ever after.”
However, modern fairy tales tend to have a sad end. I never understood why is that in modern fairy tales until reading Grace’s story. Anyhow, in Grace’s case, a rare (and hence not well researched) disease took her man – as she calls him – away way too soon.
Life after death
Other layers are, for example, the struggle with acceptance, dealing and understanding of death; her journey thru the different stages of the grievance process with the little victories and huge fallbacks along the long, difficult way, and turning her life upside-down, not only from being a loving wife and step-mother to a widow with stepkids, but also from a hobby blogger and school teacher to a professional blogger, successful business woman helping others to grow thru their grieving process. These layers are also interweaved with learning to be ok with not being ok, and learning to be alone, but not feeling lonely and being ok with this acceptance depsite of the loss of a great loving partnership.
The cruelity of things beyond control
The next layer is about the cruelity of things beyond the own control and how to deal with not being in control. This layer is a societal and cultural one. It is probably the hardest one for a grieving person as it is beyond the griever’s control.
For example, the preceptions of society towards widows who immigrated for a love marriage; but also the preceptions of a widow’s former fellow-citizens towards those who left their (former) home country. Grace’s discussion of cultural differences provides great insight into the diversity of humankind. It also helps understanding of what made America great: Adopting the best of each culture while acknowledging that the boundaries of one’s own freedom are where the boundaries of the next person’s freedom start.
Self-discovery, coping and self-empowerment
The book is an eye-opener with respect to self-discovery. She describes the empowerment of separating oneself from the (painful and/or angry) emotions to open up for a new (different) life ahead and not getting stuck in the beautiful memories of the old life that one will never have again. Part of this process is also the discovery that the only place to live in is the own body and that one has to take care of its physical and emotional fitness.
Grace describes, for instance, how watching your emotions teaches you about who you are; or even how taking the observer’s position can calm you down. Acknowleding the thoughts, telling your brain, “yes, thanks for the reminder, but this is not the right moment. Look at the great scenery, smell the roses of summer, taste the berry and cherry flavor of this wine, listen to the chirping of the cricket and feel the warm sunshine and the wind’s play with your hair and gorgeous silk dress on your skin.”
Who would enjoy reading Finding Grace
Grace gracefully manages to convey her messages on finding yourself in form of her own diary with narrative reflections from a later point of view. The reflections may be very helpful for everyone who lost a loved one or who had a major loss of any kind. The after reflections also put the different phases (and their repetition) of the grievance process into context.
Where to buy Finding Grace
The official launch day of her book on Amazon is January 14. On her instagram account Grace asked to please wait to purchase her book until the official launch so it will count towards her making the bestseller list. You can pre-order it here.
In a nutshell
Grace Liang’s book is a Must-read for everyone who is gowing thru a substantial life change, not only those who lost a loved one. It is a guide to finding yourself and living a happy life on your own terms. Like Coco Chanel said I was bored with my life so I designed my own life. - Coco Chanel #empoweredwomen Click To Tweet
This story is so enligthening; it should be on the reading list in college classes on literature of other cultures as well.My mindset was that the worst had already happened; there was nothing left to be afraid of. - Grace Liang #findinggrace Click To Tweet
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