The holiday season can be quite stressful. Last minute changes of who comes to the family Christmas dinner. You are happy to have heard about it, and maybe even look forward to seeing the last-minute additional guest, but it means finding a gift in … how many days are left? Should you change the size of your turkey order? This scenario is just one example of typical pre-holiday hassle. Read how to avoid feeling stressed out during the holiday season.
Unexpected changes in the plans for the festivities happen not only to you but everyone. Consequently, everyone feels stressed. Everything seems hectic making it even worse when it should be the peaceful time of the year. How ironic! Read what you can do, among other things, to avoid feeling stressed out during the Holiday season.
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Don’t Get Angry about Things that Are Beyond Your Control!
Here are some examples that are not worth your energy to feel stressed out about.
- The last weekend of November brought us a load of new snow, which of course, the driveway had to be shoveled. Because of the high snow, a parcel service didn’t deliver a package. On the slip it said “Inaccessible driveway”! That meant an unexpected trip to the airport on Monday.
- Of course, the trail to the pick-up office wasn’t plowed. Honestly, the trail was in worse shape than our driveway. That fact took even more time for the trip than expected, for which it was too late for the next thing on my running errands list.
- The snow shoveling on Saturday shortened my time for preparing my stuff for First Friday.
- On Thursday the first cold snap with temperatures below -27.4F (-33oC) hit. Bundling up and running errands despite the weather. Interestingly, people seemed to be much calmer and more helpful to one another than in the “warmer” days before. I wonder whether it was because less people were in the stores. It takes real self-discipline and the urge to get something done, to go outside in these temperatures; especially, when it is at the same time windy (for our conditions) and relative humidity is high. The air quality started to get bad.
Why? You can’t change what happened and can’t avoid that it happened. However, you can change how you respond. Just, do, what has to be done to fix the problem, rather than getting angry about it.
Sometimes a Seemingly Huge Problem Solves Itself
On Friday, the cold air mass remained. That meant less people for First Friday. Therefore, my missing out on preparation time turned out to be no problem. I had more than enough earrings and necklaces for the show and sale.
The Likelihood that Little Things Needed Break Is Equal for All Days You Need Them
When I came home, my husband told me that the thermostat of the furnace is broken. “That’s why it’s so cold. The guy is on his way to replace the thermostat.” I nodded and started preparing dinner (gnocchi with asparagus). The water just started to cook, when the repairman arrived. Fifteen minutes later and $260 less, a new thermostat was in place. Lucky us that we live in Alaska! Here all furnace companies have a 24/7 emergency service in winter. Guess what? The highest expense on the bill was the drive out to our place! The thermostat was just a $10 something thing.
Unexpected Visitor
On Saturday morning, my husband called me to come downstairs asap. When I arrived in the dinning room, I saw a moose in our backyard standing on the deck in front of the door. Its shoulder height was even to that of my husband’s (6 ft). He stood on the inside and they looked at each other. Their noses just 8 inch (20 cm) apart and the double door between them.
I didn’t take a photo as it was still dark. We feared that the flash would make the moose to turn around and go into defense mode thereby hitting its hooves against the door. They are dangerous.
Get a Happy Light
On Saturday, the Sun didn’t rise before 10:35 am and already set at 2:49 PM. We will loose about 6 minutes of daylight every day until Fairbanks winter solstice. You can imaging that Alaskans love the little twinkle lights of the holiday season.
Tip: Get a happy light that has the Sun spectrum (without the UV) when the darkness is bothering you.
The Heatwave
The cold airmass remained thru the night from Saturday to Sunday. On Sunday, we woke up to pleasant positive temperature, but still below freezing. The cold airmass had moved south. Shortly before Sunrise, my “foster” cat showed up. We hadn’t seen him since Monday morning before I left to work.
Conclusions on Feeling Stressed out during the Holiday Season
What is my conclusion about the events of the last ten days or so? Take one step at a time on things you are in control off. The rest may fall in place or not. But there is nothing you can do about it. Thus, it’s not worth spending any energy on thinking about it. It just makes not being in control more stressful than it is already.
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Have a peaceful and pleasant Christmas time.
Photos of me: G. Kramm
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Always enjoy hearing your Alaska stories, Nicole – we have been amidst the worst bushfires in history with highways cut off and people losing their homes … we are all just at the mercy of our environments and all we can do is our best and try to get on with what we can and leave the rest!! Thank you for sharing!
Donna 🧚🏻♀️❤️🐝