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Burgundy with shades of gray business casual winter outfit with J.Crew snakeprint knee length skirt, Hanes gray semi sheer tights, Vince Camuto suede cone heel tall boots with double chain detail, GNW 3/4 sleeve cardigan, GNW Luxe top, Hermes collier de chien bangle and wide statement belt (all own)

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Worry about what is worth worrying

We all worry about things. It can be about a variety of things. And even things we enjoy like dressing up. How often did you stand in front of your closet clueless what to wear for an occassion?

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Some situation are easy to overcome

These are those you have control over. For instance, to stay with our favorite suject fashion and beauty, creating a great outfit for a successful job interview and your grooming for the event. Of course, you have no control over the questions they will ask.

mature style blogger in trendy business casual winter outfit with skirt, boots, faux twinset
Left view of winter work outfit with trendy J. Crew skirt, Hanes tights, Vince Camuto boots, GNW cardigan, and wide belt (all own)

Notice the signals

Often we just feel nervous or even anxious and we don’t know why. The feeling holds us captive, drags us down and may even may impair us to take a move. We feel like the mouse in front of the snake, wondering what to do. While this example is a live threatening situation, most situations aren’t.  So take control about what is in your power. Ask yourself

“Is the current problem real or just hypothetical?”

Hypothetical analysis and reaction

In case of a hypothetical situation, how likely is it to become real? 10%, 90%, 100%? What is in your hands to have an impact on the outcome? For example, one out of seven women will be diagnosed with breast cancer in her life. Thus, from a statistical point of view the probability to get breast cancer is about 14.3%. There is no preventive measure. All you can do is going to your annual mamography every year. Just do that and stop to worry about it. It’s not now, the probability is serious, but you do all you can. Now switch the topic, have some fun and check the superchic spring and summer trends to add to your wardrobe for the upcoming warm season.

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Zoom-in on belt buckle

Take action

It’s a current problem like for instance “I need a mother-of-the-bride dress for a beach wedding.” That’s the what. Now when do you need it? Now? Like in two weeks, next week like yesterday would have been better?  Dress for shopping to save time when dressing and undressing in the fitting room and hit the mall.

Now? Just improvise with what you have.

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What it your fault? Take it as a lesson and do better next time.

Not your fault? Perfect, it’s not your problem. You did the best you could with s… somebody else caused. And always remember

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details of skirt and footwear
Zoom-in on the trendy snake pattern with shades of burgundy, gray and winter white as well as the double chain decoration of the footwear


Staying with the example scenario, but now let’s assume it’s not an emergency wedding, but well planned ahead, i.e. your kid just called you to give you a several months notice. Get informed about trends in wedding attire, the colors of the bridal party,  and the dos and don’t of mother-of-the-bride dress shopping. Then make a plan, may be even a plan A, B and C (that’s me 🙁  because Murphy’s law says when something can go wrong it might.). Schedule what has to be don’t and just do it asap. Problem solved. Go on with your life.

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Are you a worrier? What is robbing your beauty sleep right now? Just curious.

#fashionover50 over 50 years old woman in Casual Friday winter look with panther buckle belt
Front view of burgundy-gray-snake print casual work look. J.Crew straight knee length skirt, Hanes tights, Vince Camuto tall boots with double chain decoration, GNW jacket, GNW Luxe sweater, Hermes collier de chien bangle and Panther buckle belt (all own)


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This Post Has 3 Comments

  1. Fantastic skirt and I love that belt! I think having your closet full of clothes you love certainly helps the anxiety!
    jess xx

  2. donnadoesdresses

    I like your no nonsense advice, Nicole! Too many people spend time worrying instead of strategising and actually doing! Thank you for sharing and I love that skirt you’re wearing! Donna 🧚🏻‍♀️❤️🙏

  3. overthehilda

    Yes planning is key and do not worry until you need to worry. Love that skirt.

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