Most people dress differently at home and for work or their “pubic life.” This post explores the differences and reasons behind this behavior.
- Fashion of Life Lately
- Overlapping Dressing Situations
- Dressing for the Private Life
- Your Secret Life
- 202nd Top of the World Style linkup party
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Fashion of Life Lately
Ever since I read Patricia Gucci’s book In the Name of Gucci, I have been thinking about her statement
Everyone has three lives.
A secret life, a private life and a public life.
Ultimately, however, only an aware life is worth living.
Public Dressing May Have a Dress Code
Well, the public life is obvious. That’s your life with your friends, at work, at the gym, in your community, at church, as a volunteer, at the grocery store, Farmers Market, at your (grand)kids’ school, in your clubs, etc. and on social media (no matter of your settings). Each of these situation has sort of a generally accepted dress code what is appropriate to wear. Even what to wear at a high school reunion.
What to wear in any of these situations can be nailed down into a recipe on how to dress for success in midlife like in my book with this title. Your personal style comes in with what these ingredients, i.e. clothing items look like in your edited wardrobe.
When you attend a Military Ball, for instance, what you wore will be out in public. Selfies and group photos are made, and even when you didn’t have your photo taken, you may appear in the one or other photo. People will recognize you even when you have never talked a word in private before. They may greet you when they she you at your front door, SeaTac or anywhere in the world.
Dressing for the Private Life
Your private life is also obvious. Just think of the family reunions, for example. You dress for comfort and memorable photos.
Overlapping Dressing Situations
Well there is also an overlap of private and public life, just think about your kid’s graduation. You go there because it’s your kid. But it’s a public celebration of the university as well. And yes, you honor and acknowledge this mixed situation by how you dress to celebrate the successful graduation. Woman, the graduation means you now can spend a big fraction of your hard earned money on yourself. However, you keep this thought to
Your Secret Life
Every thought that you have and that you don’t share with anybody, is part of your secret life. Your anxieties, even when your anxiety is just about what to wear when.
It’s also about your dreams that you fear to share. They may range from something material like a statement bag to something extreme like changing your life.
And then there is the accumulation of your traumas. Things that (had) hurt you, but you never spoke to anyone about it. The reasons for being silent may be manifold. The fear to be misunderstood, sound egocentric, being victimized or discriminated, judged, excluded, show a weakness, putting yourself at disadvantage, making the situation worse, being ridiculed or even considered to be crazy, etc.. There may be shame even when what happened to cause the trauma wasn’t your fault, and you were the victim.
Your secret life is also your frustrations, your disappointments, all thoughts including intrigues, strategies, and planning. It’s also who you could be if you just worked on it.
In your secret life, even when you dream of that great dress, pair of shoes, etc., you are naked, nude to the bones. You know you and you can’t hide from yourself or dress to convey a (faux) message. It’s brutal honesty and reality. Only you know what’s bubbling and cooking there, the tumults, and you can be your own enemy blocking yourself from pursuing your dreams or your best friend helping to live your dreams. Your secret life and how you deal with it can pull you up or down.
I went for an all neutrals business casual look with a cape hoodie, the animal print trend, linen trousers and loafers. See this post for the review on the cape hoodie. At this time a year, sunnies are a Must-have in Interior Alaska. The Sun leads to a lot of glear on the remaining snow. FYI, we just got another load of snow on Wednesday.
202nd Top of the World Style linkup party
Welcome to the Top of the World Style linkup! Thanks for coming. The featured guests from last weeks party are:
Darlene Messinger of of Aquamarina Style won the title Top of the World Style Winner. She presented and modeled the content of her Stitch Fix box.
You clicked Chrissy’s post at Granola and Grace the most and made her the Top of the World OOTD Readers’ Fav.
Lisa’s spring weekend outfit became my favorite. She is the blogger atCoast to Coast.
Please share the post so other fashionistas and fashionisters can join. Thank you!See these awesome looks at the Top of the World Style #linkup party. #timelessstyle Click To Tweet
Photos of me: G. Kramm
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