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Whenever there is slack season these articles pop up like mushrooms after the first long lasting rain at the end of summer. Women over 40 should not wear … . It’s not only ageism, but also pinpointed against a specific gender. Therefore, one would assume such articles wouldn’t make it past the chief editor. Read why they shouldn’t tell us what to wear, and learn to feel privileged of having so many free trips around the Sun.


  1. Why to Cry Out Loud “Don’t Tell Us What to Wear”
  2. Getting Old Is a Privilege, Not a Burden
  3. Humorous Solution to Cope with Don’t Wear XYZ after Age …
  4. Why Is Ageism Pointing Towards Women Only?
  5. Why to Take Aging as a Privilege
  6. Always Remember


Why to Cry Out Loud “Don’t Tell Us What to Wear”

There is this discussion again. “When is a woman too old to go sleeveless?” What’s wrong about jiggling bingo wings? Nothing! Are they just jealous they can’t do the jiggle (yet)! Stop it! Everyone has the right and freedom to express themselves. This includes women at any age. Dressing is expressing what you think and feel good about. Don’t allow anymore to take that right away. Recall many men and women died fighting for this right!


Getting Old Is a Privilege, Not a Burden

They forget that getting old is a good thing that many people are denied. That’s already reason enough to show the bingo wings off.

The suggested fix, wear sleeves – even at 110F (43.3oC)! A recipe for thermal stress, a heat stroke, and may be death! There they go the bingo wings.

Today it is the upper arm, tomorrow it will be long or gray or yellow teeth. Next week, it will be the ears that get bigger as we age. Since we are supposed to cut our long hair after 40, will we then have to chop our ear off like Vincent van Gogh? Just asking.

What’s next? The witch hunt? What is it, that young is great, old is bad (when you are a woman)?


#fashionover50 mature woman in a work outfit that doesn't fit the age rules
Tucker skirt with Brooke Brothers knit sweater, Hermes collier de chien bangle, golden bangle gift from my Mom, L.K. Bennett patent leather pumps (all own) and Akoya pearl necklace c/o The Pearl Source


Humorous Solution to Cope with Don’t Wear XYZ after Age …

Will we have to pin lists like The 10 most effective things to hide your aging body to the inspiration board in our closet? Here an example of how such a list could read, and in Italic how I feel we should react about these signs of aging. Have a good laugh. 🙂

  1. Wear sunglasses to hide crowfeet, sagging eyelids, and dark under-eye circles. No, raccoon are considered cute because of their eye circles.
  2. Wearing a face mask is one way of dealing with age spots. Dalmatians, leopards and ladybugs are considered beautiful. Btw, leopard and polka dot prints are a fashion classic!
  3. Wear ear cuffs to hide your growing ears. Minnie Mouse never was my style icon, and did you forget that you said we should not wear ear cuffs after 30?!
  4. Wear white gloves to hide your bony hands. Dogs love bones, and I have nothing to hide like did Mac the Knife.
  5. Women over 40 should not have long hair. Rapunzel is my style icon, but I don’t need a Prince to let my hair down.
  6. Wear only midi skirts to hide your aging knees. Slightly above the knee is most flattering on any woman, and who can see that my knees are aging is way too close or wearing binoculars instead of glasses.
  7. Wear your reading glasses on a chain to not loose them. It’s my brain exercise to remember where I put them and if not, I am helping the economy by buying new ones.
  8. Wear a bra even on weekends in summer. I will do it the moment, all men who have more than I do wear one.
  9. Don’t wear a bikini. Why? Is this Sylt, Germany, where you swim nude?
  10. Wear an armor like a knight so nobody sees your (well earned) wrinkles, age spots, gray hair (or not). I am on my way to the airport.


Why Is Ageism Pointing Towards Women Only?

Why are those questions or suggestions popping up again and again? Do women over 40, 50, 60, 70, 80, … have to deal with this? You never see suggestions for men to hide their age, and/or aging body parts. Are they just not aging, dressing better as they get older, dressing better than we do, or does nobody care about their getting older? Sorry I’m just asking.


Why to Take Aging as a Privilege

What the heck! Is it a crime to age!? It happens to everyone every day, and hopefully for many decades to come. I wear what makes me feel comfortable, chic and looking great. So should you.

Wear what makes you feel great and not what is age appropriate? What does that mean anyhow? #agelessstyle Click To Tweet

And always remember:
Aging is a privilege denied to so many. #ageism Click To Tweet

Therefore, happy aging in fashion and style. A toast to 100 years and more, but do it you way! Enjoy your free trips around the Sun.


older woman in work outfit with age inappropriate about the knee skirt length
Back view of outfit with Tucker skirt, Brooke Brothers sweater, pearl barrette, and L.K. Bennett pumps


Always Remember

Age is just a number. Click To Tweet Age is a state of mind. Therefore, you are so old as you feel/behave. Click To Tweet Don’t Tell Us 40+ What to Wear – Aging Is Not a Crime Click To Tweet

What do you think about all those suggestions of the media that tell us what to wear and not to wear at a certain age? Which of the above Don’ts are Dos for you?

Want to read more about examples on ageism and how to cope? What about gray hair is a choice, not a default?

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