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Avoid these big mistakes when dressing for a family reunion

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fashionover40  Timeless winter outfit
Orvis classic Irish riding jacket with corduroy collar and pocket details, INC chocolate brown leather pants (similar here), Clark booties, layering top (similar here), GNW wool cashmere sweater and minimal necklace (all own) for a timeless winter look

Family is no guarantee for peace

What? Yes, seriously! Even in your family you have to think about what to wear at a family reunion. Everyone will take photos. They will land in a folder and your photos may be deleted after you are “not” family anymore due to a divorce. This divorce can be yours or the person’s who took the photos. Well, this fate of photos of you is not to worry about.

Social media aren’t the problem – even when you are covered by sauce

The photos that land on social media when something funny happens to you are also not a big deal either. It just happens that someone spills the gravy all over someone else. Everyone feels pity for the poor victim, and finds it tasteless of your family member to post it. Even if nothing funny happens, the photos that get posted during or immediately after the family reunion are no problem too.

The trend of the season is your enemy

The problem may occur years later after you had worn the big trend of the year at a family reunion. The trend everyone wore at that time. The trend that in the aftermath years later seems to be the most silliest trend ever. The photo of an OOTD that you are embarrassed to see in a decade or more from now.

Styleover40 outfit showing timeless style
Zoom-in on details of the blazer and layering technique. The fuchsia sweater and brown layering top underneath pick up colors of the blazer’s classic pattern. The necklace keeps it simple

Style advice: Wear something timeless

Doing so avoids becoming the amusement of future family reunions when they review photos of past family unions. But stay true to your style. This means if your style is Bohemian pick an outfit that is considered iconic for that style. In this case, think of the photos of Ali MacGraw or Jane Birkin in the 70s.  If your style is Rock’n Roll, it will be wise just  to go for the red jeans, studded ankle booties, tuxedo shirt, and black motorcycle leather jacket. Leave the trendy skull scarf and the leather jacket with studs and chains all over the place at home. That new sexy Side Bow Cutout jeans from Lookbook Store that shows the skin on the sides of your legs is cute for the disco now, but not on a family photo in 20 years. Recall you bought it for your vacation trip for going out. You had no intention to be the funny mommy/granny your future kids/grand-kids giggle about. You never liked being the “babysitter” anyhow. You never liked to be the center of attention and family entertainer to begin with. And who needs the title fashion victim of the family? Tweet about this.

Stay true to your style

Why should you stay with your style and not just wear something classic like Michelle Obama? You want to feel comfortable in your clothes, because that is key to come across confident, and honest. Sending this message is especially important when the family reunion is the in-laws part of the family. You want to be regarded as the best catch s/he could get, the best that ever happened to your spouse, and as such, as a great addition to the family. Nobody wants to settle for being the “appendix”.

Have the future in mind

If you are not looking forward to family reunions, you are not alone. Many people don’t. But keep in mind, it is just a day every so often. Make the best out of it. Always remember, the only family members you can chose are your spouse and your pets. The rest are free bees. These free bees can be all awesome. Lucky you. Then you have all reasons to look forward to the next family reunion. However, keep in mind, you never know who later will join the family. There might be that annoying person, who laughs about everyone, but themselves in the future. Thus, protect yourself by dressing timelessly at all family reunions. Or like the Godfather said “Keep your friends close, your enemies closer.” Tweet this.

Example of a suitable timeless OOTD

The OOTD in this post shows an example of a timeless American classic look, i.e my style. Recall the photos of Jackie Kennedy on the yacht of Aristotle Onassis? She wore a riding jacket, sweater and pants. Here I layered a fuchsia wool cashmere sweater over a brown slim, body conscious layering top. The tailored cut of the blazer and the sleek style of the sweater keep the look lean despite of three layers plus underwear. The pants are straight, which is always in style. Thus, avoid any extremes with respect to your pants. Tweet about this.

over40fashion woman in American  classic, elegant winter look
Fuchsia wool GNW cashmere sweater with INC chocolate leather pants, layering top, Clark booties and simple necklace (all own) for a warm timeless winter look

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Photos: G. Kramm

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